Understanding Yourself and Others

Understanding Yourself and Others

Being able to work with others and understand how they tick is a key to any successful project be it work or play. At the same time, understanding how you wish to be treated and have others interact with you is just a key.

Over the last five years I have studied the DISC personality profiling system to create my own questions in order to help myself and others determine what type they are as well as those around them. This research has helped myself countless times over as I meet and interact with people through day to day life.

In order to help you discover these attributes, here are my set of questions.

1. In a work situation, which best describes your thought process?

A. What is the task and how can I accomplish it as quickly as possible? Let’s Do It!

B. Who am I going to do this with. How can we make this more enjoyable? Let’s have fun!

C. How can we make this work for everyone. Does everyone feel involved?

D. What are the facts? Have we thought this all the way through? How can this be better?

2. In a social setting, which best decries your actions?

A. Go to the more influential people first. Getting to know the right people and making yourself apparent.

B. Meet as many people as time allows. Have some kind of entertainment or trick to amuse others and make them laugh.

C. Scan the room to make sure that no one is left out and then take actions to include everyone.

D. Find a place to sit and relax as you observe the party. Study those of interest form a distance and only take actions to interact after you have thought your plan out.

3. When participating in a competitive activity with friends, which action do you take?

A. Let’s win this thing! Do what ever it takes to win baby! I’m going to cream you!

B. What really cool move can I make? I’m going to rock this! Everyone had better have their phones ready!

C. Is everyone able to play? What will we do when not everyone wins? Everyone need to feel special.

D. How is the best way to go about this obstacle course so as to insure our victory?

4. When stressed, how do you react most often?

A. Anger. Just give me space to vent.

B. Push it off. Ignore the problem until it it becomes too much and you finally break down but in privet. No one must see your pain.

C. Cry. Talk things out. Want to feel safe and appreciated.

D. Block out world. Reason through things on your own. Don’t let anyone in.

5. When going about planning and setting personal goals, What is most important?

A. Seeing the big picture.  Have a plan for ten to twenty years down the road. Big plans and goals with direct actions on how to accomplish those goals.

B. Lots of Big ideas all the time. Chasing after the wild dreams, taking chances and living life to the fullest.

C. How can I keep everyone that means the most to me close to me in my future. How can make everyone happy with me?

D. What is the most effective path with the greatest profit? Each step planned with out with no room for change.

How one interacts with others and how they conduct themselves in everyday situations will differ greatly by which personality type is their primary.

If you related mostly with the A questions then you are a dominate D. If your related mostly with the B’s then you are an I. Mostly C’s are S. Mostly D’s are C.

With a better idea of which type you and your partner may be, here are a few tips on your greatest strengths, weaknesses, how you help others and, how others can help you.


Greatest strength = Determined and get things done.
Greatest weakness = Have a tendency to be pushy and patient.
How they help others = They lead and are always willing to accomplish a task.
How others can help them = Give quick and to the point directions. Understand that they are not ignoring you they are just focused on a task.


Greatest strength = Outgoing and interactive.
Greatest weakness = Have tendency to not accomplish much in the eyes of others and seem unfocused.
How they help others = They make life fun no matter where they are.
How others can help them = Let them have fun. Don’t judge them as childish but instead see them as the gifts of joy that they are.


Greatest strength = They are sensitive and caring to others and their surroundings.
Greatest weakness = Can have their felling hurt  easily and often hide in the back.
How they help others = These people are all about helping others. They live for it. They always know when someone is hurt or need love.
How can we help them = Make sure we don’t push them out of the way as they are less upfront. Always show that you appreciate them.


Greatest strength = These people make anything they work on better and think through things logically.
Greatest weakness = Can be seen as perfectionists and have hard time being completely content with something. They can also come across as judgmental.
How they help others = These people make things better by seeing the areas of improvement and logic.
How others can help them = Give them time and patients understanding that it is important to them that things be done the right way. Know that they are not being judgmental but only helping in their gifted way.

With this better understanding of yourself and how you can help others, you are better equipped to enjoy those in your life and improve the world around you.

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